The Archives Published by: How-To-Fix-My-Relationship ** How To Fix My Relationship Subject line: Are you having a crush, causing your break up? Why do people get a crush? Many times, we become attracted to people who we perceive as having certain qualities or traits that we lack. A shy person will be attracted to a confident person. A type A personality might be attracted to someone who is mellow and easy-going. Underlying problems of all sorts in you current relationship might push you towards having an affair because you're unhappy. Be careful. Everybody some or other time goes through difficult patches in their relationship. Most of it usually is temporarily. It's all part of life. Don't for one moment think that you're not going to go through problems with someone new (a crush). To get over your crush, you’ve got to find a way to take those blinders off. The steps I am about to suggest to you can help you get over your crush, but you must genuinely want to be over it. Some of the steps are not easy. Step #1: Assess Your Situation Having a crush on someone is no good reason to break up with your partner. Often times, we hang on in these situations because we are still fabricating hope in our imaginations. We hope our crush will be that magical solution to our dreams. The problem is this keeps you waiting forever for something that is just a crush. So, you’ve got to decide whether or not it is worth the risk to tell your crush how you feel. If you decide it’s not worth it, then you may as well direct your attention to your partner. Don't forget that your partner is prepared to share common problems with you. A crush can be a very dangerous thing to an uncertain relationship. Once a crush becomes the new partner in a relationship all that "green grass on the other side" can suddenly change when financial and other commitments need to be met. Step #2: Take Action Do everything you reasonably can to avoid spending time around your crush for a while. Get back into your own hobbies and interests, too, so that you have plenty to occupy your mind. Step #3: Change the way you think about your crush The good news is that you do not need to be in a romantic relationship with your crush in order to obtain certain qualities or traits that we lack or think we lack. You only need to recognize them and start cultivating them on your own. ============================================== 100% Free Report - Download “The 7 Love Secrets That Could Change Your Life Forever!” If You Want More Intimacy, More Passion and Healthier, Longer-Lasting Relationships In Your Life, Then Get Ready! You're About To Discover Your Ultimate Love Potential... Visit: http://how-to-fix-my-relationship.com ============================================== Regards Johan Oosthuizen and Leanne Havenga Owners of How To Fix My Relationship http://how-to-fix-my-relationship.com PO Box 30360 Pioneerspark Windhoek Namibia Xanadu no.41 Kleine Kuppe Windhoek Namibia Next message     Last messageReturn to main archives page Copyright 2004 ©. All rights reserved.